Yes of course, the men attending a gay pride parade are perhaps overachievers in the field of sexual conquest. But the stereotype of the promiscuous gay man is long established and accurate. Do not pretend otherwise.
They want to be treated like everyone else; get married like everyone else; these days, have children like everyone else. But don't kid yourselves, they are not like everyone else.
I'm pretty liberal about gay people and the gay lifestyle; they can do whatever they like, both in and out of the bedroom. But this level of promiscuity does not lend itself to marriage and children, not to mention public health.
Yes, these debates are over. But maybe they need a second, more realistic, look.
The public has largely accepted what gay men do. Even if most of us do not really want to think about it. But if a heterosexual man has this many sexual partners, most people would consider that licentious and degenerate. Here, even the term partner is out of place. These are not partners in any sense of the imagination. But I do not know a better term to describe the person on the other side of a daily, one-off, anonymous, sexual encounter. Of any type.
Well there is slut, right? But call a gay man a gay slut and his response is likely to be: Oh honey, you are so right. You don't know the half of it. Look at the men in the above video; they are proud of it.
Regarding a heterosexual man with that amount of sexual activity, some will surely envy his sexual prowess. But they will also call him a womanizer or a player; and no one is going to consider him marriage material. But is the heterosexual male slut also proud? Yeah maybe. But how many of these guys are there versus what is really normalization on the gay side.
I recently watched the Netflix remake of Alan Alda's The Four Seasons. And today of course, it includes a married gay couple. Okay fine. But in the series, the gay couple pick up an anonymous stranger and take him back to their hotel room to have sex. Like this is normal.
That is not normal. I mean it may be normal gay behavior and I do not care if that is what you want to get up to; have at it. But it is not normal marriage behavior. And this is not the first time I have seen this in a television series. I saw one production a couple of years ago where the required gay couple had multiple outside partners. Hollywood has decided that this is, in fact, normal and the rest of us should get on board with it.
Now, I am perfectly well aware of the fact that some small number of heterosexual married couples also have so-called open relationships. But here too, let us not pretend this is normal marriage behavior. I will add what I always think about when someone cheats on their spouse: If you do not want to be married, just do not be married. It is not as complicated as people sometimes want it to be.
Like I said, I do not care what anyone does. But let us not pretend that gay men are like us. And if this is normal behavior for you, straight or gay, maybe marriage is not your thing.


